How I Healed from 20 Years of GERD – and What It Taught Me About the Mind-Body Connection
Many people live with chronic symptoms like acid reflux, headaches, muscle aches, or anxiety, treating them for years without ever addressing the root. This was my experience with GERD and long-term dependence on Proton Pump Inhibitors (PPI’s) such as Nexium and Prilosec.
I can honestly say that despite access to top medical care, nothing created lasting relief. It wasn’t until I explored the deeper connection between suppressed emotions, the nervous system, and the body that everything began to change.
In this article, I share the turning point that helped me come off medication after two decades, and what it revealed about how unresolved emotional experiences can shape physical health. More importantly, I’ll show you how this understanding led me to develop a framework that helps others create real, lasting transformation—mentally, emotionally, and physically.
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A 20-Year Cycle of Managing Symptoms
I started taking PPIs for GERD when I was 18.
At the time, I was going through a major life transition and a period of stress that felt quite overwhelming. What started as a temporary solution for acid reflux quickly became a permanent one.
Back then, the connection between what I was going through emotionally and what I was experiencing physically wasn’t clear to me. The symptoms felt purely physical, and the medication seemed to be the only thing that reliably brought relief. Even after that stressful period passed, the symptoms didn’t. So I just followed medical recommendations.
Years passed, and I was still relying on medications like Prilosec and Nexium just to manage daily symptoms. What made it even more confusing was that, on paper, I was doing everything “right.”
I was an athlete. I exercised regularly. I maintained a healthy lifestyle.
I tried everything:
- diet changes
- medication switches
- medical procedures like endoscopies
- Meditative practices
- multiple attempts to wean off
Nothing worked.
At some point, I accepted that this was just part of my life now. But over time, I started noticing my symptoms weren’t random. They intensified with periods of stress in my life.
When the Body Starts Speaking Louder
There were moments when the symptoms became so severe that even high doses of medication weren’t enough.
At one point, I had to stack medications just to get through the day. My GI doctor—one of the top specialists at Mass General—once suggested it could be related to anxiety and referred me to a psychiatrist.
He wasn’t wrong. But that wasn’t the full picture.
In my late 20s and early 30s, I found myself going back and forth between:
- gastroenterology
- psychiatry
- therapy
- medications
- mind-body approaches
I followed every recommendation.
And while these medical approaches helped me get by and live a “normal life”, there was always a deeper knowing inside me that this wasn’t the full answer and that something more was possible.
Then, at the age of 37, something shifted. Routine labs showed changes in my kidney function.
I began researching and found evidence linking long-term PPI use to potential kidney damage. By then, I had been on daily use of PPI’s for nearly 19 years. At that point I became convinced that the elevated creatinine levels were connected to years of relying on these medications.
The Missing Link: The Mind-Body Connection
About a year after the changes in my kidney numbers, I reached a breaking point.
I had exhausted every option I knew trying to improve both my emotional and physical health. And yet, something didn’t feel quite right. I remember looking at my life at 38 years old and feeling completely lost.
Lacking purpose. Still dealing with chronic GERD. And now, worsening symptoms of anxiety and depression despite having tried every possible medication recommendation.
Shortly after, I was introduced to a therapist/coach outside my state and decided to start again—this time virtually.
By that point, I had already worked with at least four different therapists over the course of my adult life, and had tried multiple psychiatric medications over the course of a decade.
On top of that, throughout my career at Mass General, I probably participated in hundreds of therapeutic and psychiatric encounters for the patients I worked with. I knew what conventional approaches looked like. And one thing I can say for sure is: this new therapist/coach had a different approach than anything I had seen or experienced.
This time it wasn’t about managing symptoms. It was about understanding what was underneath them.
Even though I started seeing her for my emotional symptoms, eventually I shared my GI history, and long-term use of PPI’s with her and her response was quite astonishing:
Your body isn’t malfunctioning, it’s expressing something unresolved.
At that point she was confident that my stomach had become the anchor for an emotional pain that hadn’t been acknowledged and fully processed.
And in fact, research supports this connection. Recent studies have now shown that traumatic events from childhood can have a direct impact on gastrointestinal symptoms, not just through stress, but through how emotional experiences are processed and expressed in the body.
You can read more about that research here: Traumatic Experiences and GERD
That idea also aligns with a well-known concept in trauma research, popularized by the book The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk. In simple terms, emotional experiences we couldn’t process—especially early in life—don’t just disappear. They are stored in the body.
They shape:
- how we think
- how we feel
- how we respond to stress
- and in many cases, how the body functions
For me, the stomach became the place where that unprocessed emotional pain lived.
And once I understood and worked through that, everything started to make sense:
- the physical symptoms
- the emotional patterns
- the anxiety
- the ways I related to others
They were not separate issues. They were different expressions of the same deeper wound.
And to be clear, this should not have felt like some radical breakthrough.
The connection between emotional pain, nervous system stress, and physical symptoms is not new. The problem is that our systems are not always designed to recognize it, connect it, or treat it effectively.
In the conventional medical model, physical symptoms are usually treated physically. In the mental health model, anxiety and depression are often treated through talk therapy or medication. Both can be helpful, and often times necessary. But when unresolved emotional pain is living in the body, the path to healing often requires something more integrated.
It requires an approach that includes the nervous system, the body, emotional processing, and the story behind the symptoms. And that kind of support is still not easily available in most medical or mental health settings, no matter how advanced the system may be.
That was the part that stayed with me. Not just that my stomach symptoms had a deeper emotional root.
But that I had spent nearly two decades searching for help inside systems that were never fully designed to look at me as a whole person.
Your Body May Be Asking for Deeper Care
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Why This Isn’t Just My Story
At first, I felt frustrated.
How had I spent nearly two decades in one of the best healthcare systems in the world—and never come across this perspective?
A perspective that connects emotional experience, nervous system responses, and physical symptoms in a way that actually explains what so many people are going through.
Especially considering that I wasn’t just a patient. Throughout my career at the hospital I had a front-row seat to hundreds of medical cases. I watched patients search for answers, cycle through treatments, and try to make sense of symptoms that didn’t fully resolve.
So it became clear to me that this isn’t just my story. It’s the story of many people I know and most of the patients I worked with.
We are often treated in parts:
- physical symptoms → medical care
- emotional struggles → mental health/pharmaceutical care
But rarely as a whole system.
And the truth is: When the nervous system stays in a prolonged stress response, it doesn’t just affect our emotions.
It affects the body.
Research continues to show links between emotional trauma and conditions like:
- gastrointestinal issues
- autoimmune disorders
- chronic pain
- anxiety and depression
The issue isn’t the system itself. There are incredible professionals doing meaningful work.
But in many cases, the approach doesn’t fully integrate all of these layers—and that’s often where something essential gets missed.
That realization is what shaped the way I now approach my work.
It’s not about replacing therapy or medical care—it’s about integrating the piece that connects the body, the nervous system, and emotional experience into one coherent process.
If you’re curious to understand how I approach that in my practice, you can explore it here: → What Is Transformational Coaching — And How Is It Different from Therapy?
The Turning Point
The shift didn’t happen all at once.
But within the first year of doing this deeper work, something changed in a way I hadn’t experienced before.
After more than 20 years of relying on PPIs for stomach symptoms I was able to come off them completely. And I continue to be off of them to this date. Not because I forced my way through it. But because, for the first time, I was working at the level where the problem was actually being created.
The work wasn’t focused on the symptom.
It was focused on:
- the nervous system
- the emotional root
- and the connection between the body and unresolved emotional experiences
And as that started to shift my body followed.
That experience changed everything for me. And it also became clear that this kind of transformation wasn’t being widely applied in a structured, accessible way.
That’s what led me to go deeper.
I decided to become a certified coach and immerse myself in learning everything I could about human behavior, the nervous system, emotional processing, and lifestyle medicine, so I could support others in creating the same kind of change I had experienced.
Over time, I brought together what I had learned—through personal experience, professional exposure, and formal training—into a clear, practical framework.
A way to help people reconnect with their bodies, understand what’s really driving their experience, and create change in a more complete, sustainable way.
Questions? Don't hesitate to get in touch.
Understanding My Framework
This experience—combined with years of personal work, professional exposure in healthcare, and formal training in coaching and lifestyle medicine—is what led me to develop the framework I now use in my work.
My approach is not based on one method.
It’s a personalized, integrative model—organized around three core steps—designed to help address symptoms not just at the surface level, but at the level where they are actually being created.
Because what I came to understand is this:
When something persists in the body, there is often more happening beneath the surface.
This understanding aligns with the work of leading experts in trauma and neuroscience—such as Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Gabor Maté, and Dr. Peter Levine—who have shown that unprocessed emotional experiences don’t just affect how we feel. They can shape how the body functions.
In other words: the nervous system plays a central role in whether the body stays in a state of stress or begins to settle. And that shift is often what allows symptoms to change.
That’s what my work is built around. Here’s a summary of it:
Step 1: Understanding What’s Driving the Symptoms
Before anything can change, we need to understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface.
In many cases, symptoms like chronic acid reflux, migraines, muscle tension (and many others) are not purely mechanical—they are influenced by how the nervous system has learned to respond to stress and environmental triggers over time.
This step is about identifying the origin of those responses, not as problems, but as signals of something deeper the system has been holding.
Experiences that were too overwhelming, too early, or too difficult to process at the time, don’t simply disappear. Instead, they can remain stored in the body, and can often manifest as physical symptoms.
As you read earlier, research increasingly shows that chronic stress and unresolved emotional experiences can influence how systems in the body function—especially digestion.
So the core principle here is:
Pain that isn’t acknowledged or processed doesn’t disappear. It continues to operate beneath the surface—shaping how you think, how you feel, and how your body responds.
And in many cases, what shows up as a physical symptom is part of that deeper story.
Step 2: Changing Your Relationship with Those Responses
In my work, this step is often described as identity work. Not in the sense of “becoming someone new,” but in understanding how much of who we’ve become was shaped by the need to feel safe.
Many of the ways we relate to ourselves and the world become part of our identity over time. And those adaptations don’t just just influence how we think or behave. They influence how the body feels and responds on a daily basis.
When the nervous system begins to feel safer, something important happens: we no longer need to organize ourselves around those protective patterns.
And as that happens, we naturally become more connected to ourselves—emotionally, mentally, and physically.
This shift in identity is subtle, but powerful.
Because as the system moves out of chronic protection the body often follows.
Step 3: Supporting the Body to Shift Over Time
From there, the work becomes practical.
We introduce small, consistent changes that help the nervous system regulate more effectively and allow the body to move out of chronic stress patterns.
This can include:
- nervous system regulation
- somatic practices
- emotional processing
- lifestyle adjustments
But this is important: nervous system regulation without root work can easily become another form of symptom management. That’s why Step 1 matters. If we don’t understand what the body has been carrying, regulating the nervous system may help us feel better temporarily, but it may not address what keeps activating the system in the first place.
From a neuroscience perspective, this is how change actually happens. Not through force, but through safety, repetition, and consistency.
And this is not about replacing medical care. It’s about addressing a layer that is often missing—and that, in many cases, can make a meaningful difference in how symptoms evolve over time.
Inside my private community, I share tools, reflections, and support to help you work with your nervous system and create change in a grounded way.
For a limited time, founding members can join for free and receive lifetime access as the community begins to grow.
Where to Go From Here
At some point, most people reach a moment where something begins to feel quietly out of alignment.
You’ve done what you were supposed to do, you’ve followed the guidance, you’ve made the effort to understand yourself, and yet, something still feels unresolved. Maybe not in a dramatic way. But in a quiet, persistent way.
The kind that shows up in how you feel in your body.
In how you respond under pressure.
In the patterns that continue, even when you know better.
If anything in this resonated with you, there’s nothing you need to force or figure out all at once.
But if you feel drawn to explore this kind of work more deeply—in a way that’s structured, grounded, and personalized—that’s the space I work in.
FAQs
Can trauma or unresolved emotional experiences really affect physical symptoms like GERD?
There is growing research showing that unresolved emotional experiences—especially early life stress, trauma, or adverse childhood events—can influence how the nervous system regulates the body over time.
These experiences don’t just affect how we feel psychologically. They can shape how systems like digestion, inflammation, and stress response function.
In the case of GERD and other gastrointestinal symptoms, this may help explain why symptoms persist or intensify, even when standard medical treatments are followed.
Is this a replacement for medical treatment?
No. This work is not a replacement for medical care.
It is designed to complement medical treatment by addressing a layer that is often not fully explored: the role of the nervous system, unresolved emotional experience, and chronic stress in how symptoms develop, persist, or intensify over time.
At the same time, when those underlying factors are addressed, it can often reduce or even eliminate the need for certain medical interventions, as it did in my own experience.
This is where my background matters. Through 22 years of experience in the medical field, combined with my own personal healing journey, I understand the importance of knowing when medical care is necessary, when emotional and nervous system work may be the missing piece, and how to think about the next step in a grounded, responsible way.
My role is not to diagnose, prescribe, or replace your healthcare provider. It is to help you explore what may be happening beneath the surface, support you in connecting the emotional and physical pieces of your experience, and guide you toward the kind of support that makes sense for where you are.
Any changes to medical treatment should always be done in collaboration with a qualified healthcare provider.
How long does this kind of work take?
It varies from person to person.
Unlike approaches focused only on symptom relief, this work focuses on creating deeper, integrated change—at the level of the nervous system, emotional processing, and behavior.
For some, shifts begin relatively quickly. For others, it’s a more gradual process of building safety, awareness, and consistency over time.
The goal isn’t just improvement in symptoms, it’s change that actually holds.
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